Embrace the Process: 3 Things that Help Me to Let Go of My Timeline

Fast-forwarding the Process

Let’s just get this out there and be real.  I’m not the best when it comes to being patient or lacking control. I’ve never liked depending on anyone and I’ve always had the foolish bent towards learning by my own experience instead of the wise counsel of others.

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Should’ve let her Daddy walk her down…

I’m serious. My mom tells a story about my pride even at 2 or 3 years old when I got incredibly mad at my godmother because she kept holding my hand as we went down the stairs. I hated having to go at someone else’s pace…following their lead. So, one time I ripped my hands away from my godmother and fell down a concrete staircase. Yup. I ended up in the hospital that day. Sadly that didn’t stop my tendency to release my grip from those who could help me in an effort to do things my way and on my time. Over the years, I’ve found that I have a natural, sinful bent to do the same thing to God.

“Hey, God. I appreciate you getting me this far, but I’ve got it from here. Let me show you how well I can do this now that I understand what You were trying to teach me. You don’t have to hold my hand anymore. I’ve got it. Just bless what I’m doing without You.”

You see, when I feel as if God has shown me something or pointed out a path (or a staircase) to follow, I tend to take a few steps with Him at the beginning, get excited and prideful, and run off without Him until I fall and get hurt. It’s a cycle that I’ve found myself in far too many times.

So what have I been learning to do? Accept the…No. Embrace the process.

It’s not easy, but it’s better than being foolish and bruised. Every detail of God’s plan is not always clear for me, but I can be certain that it’s good for me. And here’s what helps…


1. Remembering that God wants what’s best for me.

Psalm 84:1tumblr_nme68tXi0c1upm0oqo1_12801 For the LORD God is a sun and shield; the LORD bestows favor and honor; no good thing does he withhold from those whose walk is blameless.

Psalm 84:11 is a promise! I have to remind myself that God knows and wants what’s best for me even more than I do. Me living a life fully satisfied in Him not only brings me joy and peace, but it allows me to be right where I need to be to hear God and receive wisdom for each of my day-to-day decisions. It allows me to be in the right place at the right time doing the right thing to bring about God’s GOOD will for my life. I won’t miss out on ANYTHING good if my sole focus is finding satisfaction in God.

2. Understanding that God is more concerned about my soul than my worldly desires.

2 Peter 3: 9The Lord is not slow in keeping his promise, as some understand slowness. Instead he is patient with you, not wanting anyone to perish, but everyone to come to repentance.

recite-z5frtzSince I was a teenager I’ve wanted to be married and have a family. For the past two years I’ve really desired being able to write, record, and release my first album as well. Neither or those hopes are sinful. In fact, I believe that God has given me those desires.

However, I have to remind myself that if my hopes are things that God desires to give me, then they’ll come right on time. I also have to remember that God is less concerned about those things than He is about my heart towards Him.

Many times I’ve found myself praying for blessings from God more than I’ve prayed that God would change my heart towards sin. I’ll allow myself to be more broken about not receiving what I want than about the sin that I’ve harbored (and even sometimes nurtured) in my heart. Like a spoiled child, I then find myself trying to help God do what I feel like He should be doing for me by pursuing blessings instead of the Blesser.

I have to fight to remind myself and believe that if I continue to practice putting godly desires above God Himself, then I will miss out on the beauty of both.

3. Remembering the Reward for Patience

tumblr_o0rrmomE211rbf5cro1_500Romans 5:3-5 Not only so, but we also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; 4 perseverance, character; and character, hope.5 And hope does not put us to shame, because God’s love has been poured out into our hearts through the Holy Spirit, who has been given to us.

James 1:4 Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything.

God promises us  that if we’re patiently believing God in everything then we will grow in character (beauty) and strength and that we will lack nothing. In addition to that, we ultimately get to dwell with God in eternal paradise! Those are BIG rewards for just a few years of hopeful anticipation and endurance!

Embracing the Process

My aim isn’t just to “accept the process” because God’s stronger than me and will beat me every time (although that’s all true). It isn’t just a game of “Uncle” or “Mercy.” My aboy hitim, rather, is to embrace the process as the destination…knowing that God is good and He’s good to me.

When I want to give in to my tendency to do things my way I have to consider the goodness of God, the priority of God, and the rewards of putting my trust in God. Also, I have to remember how hard it hurts to fall down (lol).

I encourage you to the same. Rest in the promises of God. Seek Him EVERY step of the way and not just at the beginning. The reward of knowing and seeing God are matchless.

Embrace the process…



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  • Wow.
  • I too was that "good" girl and based my righteousness on my actions. When I did commit one of those sins you listed (as if I wasn't already sinning with my pride in myself) I went into deep depression because I placed so much weight on being "good." When I realized (like you) that He is good and my righteousness (actions) are like filthy rags it gave me a new freedom. I was a slave to my misguided perceptions and my so called perfection. Christ offered me a freedom based on who He was and not what I did or did not do. He loved me in spite of me. That for me was freeing. Thank you for sharing this post. Now I see that I wasn't the only misguided one...lol...I'm sure there are many more of us. I look forward to reading more of your posts.
  • I am in tears after reading this! This spoke to me! I can relate! Just a while ago my selfishness rose her head and placed pressure on an old friend to be my superhero. God is the only superhero! He is near ready to comfort! Lord you have spoken! May God Bless this ministry!
  • This is a much needed topic in the church today. I dont know whats worse these church floks that fill your head with lies or that christian mingle commercial?
  • Very wise words, son. Hopefully, they are listening with spiritual ears and a heart to obey.