Are You A Good Person Or Just Self-Righteous?



The Epiphany

Throughout the years I have met some amazing individuals, but in different seasons of their lives some of these amazing people have indulged in exploratory, less than godly behaviors. Now, while I didn’t “explore” the way they did, a lot of their issues became “just another subject matter” in our everyday conversations… And if I’m being honest (and I am lol), even though I am a Christian, I must admit that while I encouraged these wonderful individuals to walk in holiness with the “stay the course” and “God has His best for you” rhetoric, I often found myself more intrigued with their struggles than broken by the pain it was actually causing them.

Though I meant well, as I look back on how deeply engrossed I waskermit sips in their many escapades, I am ashamed to say (yet free enough to admit) that I depended on people’s struggles as a measuring unit of my own goodness. Even though I’d always been seen as one of the most loyal and devoted friends a person could ever have, I was no “good girl”… just a self-righteous one.

 

 

When Self-Righteousness Meets the Gospel

2361762I must admit when God first revealed my self-righteousness to me I was a little upset because I felt that I was generally a “good girl.” I didn’t smoke, drink all the time, have sex, do drugs, and the list went on and on. Now, I am sure that God was looking at me with His “Bruh” face” lol… like “Are you done glorifying yourself yet”? But I wasn’t done. I couldn’t wrap my head around how I was so wrong when I thought I was so right. I mean, come on! Not me…right?! But once I stepped back and allowed God to show me who I was, the conclusion was conclusive. The test results came back and said that I was 100% self-righteous in my actions (picks up chair and throws it across the stage in furry…or pride lol).

Thankfully I finally got over myself and shut up so God could speak. He revealed that it was not in my inactivity of certain sins that qualified me for some measure or level of goodness but rather it is only by His might, grace, and power that I am afforded the opportunity to know what good and Who Good is (Ephesians 2:1-9, Luke 18:19). I realized that I was just like Eve in Genesis 3:6…looking at things superficially and seeing them as “good” when they’re actually deadly. I found that I had no true perception of what good is and who Good was, and I will never impress Him with my “goodness.” Shoot! I can’t even tell what is good without God!

See, the Gospel has nothing to do with us being “good,” but everything to do with us realizing and submitting to who “Good” is. I realized that if our standards of righteousness are only measured in units of sin, we ourselves become slaves to our false ideas of goodness, therefore partaking in idolatry…which just makes us even better sinners than we would like to admit we are.

 

The Challenge184529

So, if you’re a “good girl,”  allow yourself to be convicted and encouraged by the Gospel, and in turn stop measuring your level of goodness on units of sin. Ask the author of all things good to show you who He is, and He will surely guide you into all understanding and wisdom (James 1:5). Remember, in your goodness you are weak but in His goodness you are strong and covered. So take a moment and really ask yourself, “Am I A Good Person Or Am I Just Self-Righteous?” And may you allow God to show you what good truly is for you.

Prayer: God please show me who I truly am and give me the willingness to allow you change my perception and understanding of who you are and what good you have set before me. Help me Lord to stop complicating the gospel message and accept the fact that you have done it ALL for me. Thank you Lord for your goodness Amen.

Sincerely,

Ishah (woman)

– Jasmine N. Nwade

1 Comments


Candi Goudeau
10/03/15

I too was that “good” girl and based my righteousness on my actions. When I did commit one of those sins you listed (as if I wasn’t already sinning with my pride in myself) I went into deep depression because I placed so much weight on being “good.” When I realized (like you) that He is good and my righteousness (actions) are like filthy rags it gave me a new freedom. I was a slave to my misguided perceptions and my so called perfection. Christ offered me a freedom based on who He was and not what I did or did not do. He loved me in spite of me. That for me was freeing. Thank you for sharing this post. Now I see that I wasn’t the only misguided one…lol…I’m sure there are many more of us. I look forward to reading more of your posts.

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  • Wow.October 3, 2015
  • I too was that "good" girl and based my righteousness on my actions. When I did commit one of those sins you listed (as if I wasn't already sinning with my pride in myself) I went into deep depression because I placed so much weight on being "good." When I realized (like you) that He is good and my righteousness (actions) are like filthy rags it gave me a new freedom. I was a slave to my misguided perceptions and my so called perfection. Christ offered me a freedom based on who He was and not what I did or did not do. He loved me in spite of me. That for me was freeing. Thank you for sharing this post. Now I see that I wasn't the only misguided one...lol...I'm sure there are many more of us. I look forward to reading more of your posts.October 3, 2015
  • I am in tears after reading this! This spoke to me! I can relate! Just a while ago my selfishness rose her head and placed pressure on an old friend to be my superhero. God is the only superhero! He is near ready to comfort! Lord you have spoken! May God Bless this ministry!October 3, 2015
  • This is a much needed topic in the church today. I dont know whats worse these church floks that fill your head with lies or that christian mingle commercial?October 3, 2015
  • Very wise words, son. Hopefully, they are listening with spiritual ears and a heart to obey.October 3, 2015