Has Natural Hair Gone Too Far?

I worry about some of my “natural” sisters sometimes.  I really do.  I worry because so many of us have proclaimed this “rebellion” against the culture and their standards of permed, straight hair being the ideal, and yet many of us have erred to the opposite end.  I see my beautiful natural sisters judging and looking down on my also very beautiful permed hair sisters.  I see one group of black women esteeming themselves over another because they’ve “embraced their heritage” and who they are.  The problem is that while we’re yet “embracing their heritage” some of us are failing to embrace the Cross and Christ crucified.

Since I’ve been natural I’ve had more women approach me and befriend me for my hair than ever before.  I’ve literally, on many occasions, have had natural women give me more attention and respect in a room full of other women just because I’m natural and they like my texture.  What’s worse is that, many times, they’re verbal about it! “Girl, I wanted to come talk to you because you’re my natural sister!” “Oooo! I love the texture of your hair.  I just had to come speak to you about it.” “Excuse me, miss.  I know you don’t know me, but I love your hair.  I’m having a ladies night event next week.  You should come.” …and the list goes on.

Now, I’m not saying that it’s bad to connect with other natural sisters and to encourage one another and tell each other that we’re beautiful.  That’s not a problem at all.  In fact, to one degree I love the fact that women walk up to me to talk to me about my hair because that gives me an opportunity to show the love of Christ and how my complete joy is found in Him.  HOWEVER, I am burdened because I wonder if some Christian women approach me more out of a desire to connect about my hair than to connect about the things of Christ.

I mean, I’ve truly never had a stranger approach me when I’ve been sad or have looked down, but I’ve had a number of Christian women approach me because of my hair.  Are we more concerned and interested in this “Natural Hair Movement” than we are about making disciples?  People are dying because of sin and some of us are more interested in talking about hair products than about holding each other accountable in our walks with Christ??!!

God, the creator of the universe, all holy, gave up his Son for our sins… and that Son allows us access to presence of God if we should choose to give our lives to Him and seek to be regenerated by the Holy Spirit. However, if we choose to live to stay in our sins and wretchedness we will go to hell.  It’s that simple… and yet while many of our sisters are on their way to hell, we’re more adamant about getting them to convert to being natural than discipling them in the truth of the Gospel. That, my sisters, is UNnatural!

Ladies, let’s be more than our hair or outward adornment 3 Do not let your adorning be external—the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear— 4 but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God's sight is very precious. (1 Peter 3:3-4),  and let us submit our beauty…our natural hair…or our permed hair to be used for the glory of God.  Let’s use the interest that many of our sisters have in hair as a tool to be intentional about sharing the love of Christ.

If someone is interested in your hair…certainly, give them your number.  Share tips.  Invite them over…and then, well, show the love of Christ in your conduct and in your character.  Offer to do someone’s braids or flat twists for free or half price if they agree to have Bible study with you.  Give someone a bottle of product in a bag along with a Bible or some scriptures.  Be creative…but be intentional.  We are truly not our hair.  We are God’s daughters!





Kim Cash Tate

Awesome and so true, Sharona. I share your heart for the need to know who we are first and foremost in Christ. It’s easy to swing out of balance in so many things. The gospel must be foremost in all we do. Praising God for you, sis!

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  • Wow.January 8, 2013
  • I too was that "good" girl and based my righteousness on my actions. When I did commit one of those sins you listed (as if I wasn't already sinning with my pride in myself) I went into deep depression because I placed so much weight on being "good." When I realized (like you) that He is good and my righteousness (actions) are like filthy rags it gave me a new freedom. I was a slave to my misguided perceptions and my so called perfection. Christ offered me a freedom based on who He was and not what I did or did not do. He loved me in spite of me. That for me was freeing. Thank you for sharing this post. Now I see that I wasn't the only misguided one...lol...I'm sure there are many more of us. I look forward to reading more of your posts.January 8, 2013
  • I am in tears after reading this! This spoke to me! I can relate! Just a while ago my selfishness rose her head and placed pressure on an old friend to be my superhero. God is the only superhero! He is near ready to comfort! Lord you have spoken! May God Bless this ministry!January 8, 2013
  • This is a much needed topic in the church today. I dont know whats worse these church floks that fill your head with lies or that christian mingle commercial?January 8, 2013
  • Very wise words, son. Hopefully, they are listening with spiritual ears and a heart to obey.January 8, 2013