Is God Calling Women to Be Vulnerable?



If I got a group of women together and asked them to list their fears I’m sure I’d get a wide range of answers… “being broke, losing a job, never getting married, having a husband cheat on you children dying, not having children..” the list would go on and on, I’m sure.  However, there’s one common, probably universal fear that I’m sure we’d find in most women if we were to dig deep.

We are afraid to be vulnerable.

In the past year I have realized that I struggle much more with vulnerability than I imagined.  I come from a family and community of “strong” women…women who most would call “independent” and “balanced”…who are used to being leaders in homes and professional industries.  I basically come from a community and culture that says that a submissive, meek, gentle female is weak, but a non-emotional, boisterously opinionated, stubborn female is strong and womanly.  However, when I read 1 Peter 3:3-6 I get a different picture of feminism.

Do not let your adorning be external—the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear— but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious. For this is how the holy women who hoped in God used to adorn themselves, by submitting to their own husbands, as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord. And you are her children, if you do good and do not fear anything that is frightening.

I read this and was rocked! I mean, wow!  Do good and do not fear anything that is frightening?!?! Really?!  That’s big for me when it comes to my vulnerability because, let’s face it.  Being vulnerable is scary.  However, this verse tells me that any submission or vulnerability with others for the sake of Christ and my relationship with Him doesn’t come from weaknesses on my part.  It comes from a trust in the God that controls the universe…my God who loves me and protects me… who died for me and fights for me.  THAT’S the God that I submit to! That’s the God who holds my world in His hands!  …And THAT’S the God who can handle my weaknesses…my vulnerability.

Ladies, I know it’s hard for us to be vulnerable with God and with others, but we have to paint this true picture of feminism. To paraphrase Voddie Baucham, “our culture has us believing that a strong woman is a man who is biologically capable of having children.” That’s not God’s way for us.  Our strength is found in our quiet, trusting spirits.  God’s glory is shown in us in the way that we are vulnerable before God and others, honest with our emotions, and fearless in the sight of it all!

The only thing that we have to fear is God.  He is the one we revere because He is the only one who controls anything that matters! No matter how strong or composed or stubborn we are we cannot command the sun to rise or set at our demands.  We cannot clothe the lilies of the field.  BUT! We serve a God that does and He is asking us to trust in His leadership in everything… our statuses, our jobs, our romantic relationships, our children’s welfare… and most of all, with our hearts.
If God promises that He can handle our burdens, let’s give Him glory by allowing the world to see our trust in Him and see that God’s grace is sufficient for us… that His power is made perfect in weakness (2 Cor 12:9).

Our emotions and our worldly fears aren’t too much for God to handle.  Let’s lay them at His feet and become true, biblical feminist!

Sharona Drake
@sharonadrake

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  • Wow.
  • I too was that "good" girl and based my righteousness on my actions. When I did commit one of those sins you listed (as if I wasn't already sinning with my pride in myself) I went into deep depression because I placed so much weight on being "good." When I realized (like you) that He is good and my righteousness (actions) are like filthy rags it gave me a new freedom. I was a slave to my misguided perceptions and my so called perfection. Christ offered me a freedom based on who He was and not what I did or did not do. He loved me in spite of me. That for me was freeing. Thank you for sharing this post. Now I see that I wasn't the only misguided one...lol...I'm sure there are many more of us. I look forward to reading more of your posts.
  • I am in tears after reading this! This spoke to me! I can relate! Just a while ago my selfishness rose her head and placed pressure on an old friend to be my superhero. God is the only superhero! He is near ready to comfort! Lord you have spoken! May God Bless this ministry!
  • This is a much needed topic in the church today. I dont know whats worse these church floks that fill your head with lies or that christian mingle commercial?
  • Very wise words, son. Hopefully, they are listening with spiritual ears and a heart to obey.