I Want to Marry A Hosea

“I want to marry a Boaz.” I hear friends say that quite often. In fact, there was a quote that was posted on Facebook some time ago:

“To all the girls who are in a hurry to have a boyfriend or get married, a piece of Biblical advice: ” Ruth patiently waited for her mate Boaz.” While you are waiting on YOUR Boaz, don’t settle for any of his relatives; Broke-az, Po-az, Lyin-az, Cheating-az, Dumb-az, Drunk-az, Cheap-az, Lockedup-az, Goodfornothingaz, Lazyaz, and especially his third cousin Beatinyouaz. Wait on your Boaz and make sure he respects Yoaz…”

If you haven’t read Boaz & Ruth’s love story in the Old Testament book of Ruth, you should pick up the Bible and read about him.  His love for the woman who would become his bride is gentle, strong, attractive, purposeful and beautiful.  So, when someone says they want to marry a Boaz, what they are communicating is a desire to marry a Kinsman Redeemer; one who defends, provides, is hardworking and is a man of integrity.

Recently, I became prayerful about a different biblical person who I hope to someday marry.  I want to marry a Hosea.  If you are unfamiliar with this Old Testament prophet, the Lord called Hosea to marry a prostitute named Gomer.  God wanted to use Hosea’s relationship with Gomer as an example of how Israel continued to prostitute herself to surrounding nations.  Essentially, the Lord wanted to show Israel how much He loved this nation and His ache while she was disobedient.

As I read through Hosea, I was struck by his faithfulness to Gomer.  At one point, he had to purchase his own bride out of whoredom.  That, to me, was an incredible act of love.  As I re-read through Hosea, I became so desirous of a husband that looked like him.

I hope to marry a man who loves me because the Lord calls him to love me.  I want him to be faithful because his love for the Lord calls him to be faithful.  I desire for him to be a leader because he believes in the biblical role of a man being the head of a home. And I hope that he is a man of integrity because His fear of the Lord is both deep and balanced by his love for the Lord.  If a man loves the Lord above all others, he will love a woman well.

I know I will fail and I know I will sin against my future husband (if the Lord wills that I get married).  It’s inevitable.  It’s a guarantee.  I hope for a man who will love me despite the pain; who will be faithful despite the temptation; who will be trustworthy despite the difficulties; who will pursue me even after I push him away; who will purchase me even if I fall into prostitution.  That is love.  That is sacrificial.  That is biblical.  And that was the example Hosea gave.

I want to marry a Hosea.





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  • Wow.November 7, 2015
  • I too was that "good" girl and based my righteousness on my actions. When I did commit one of those sins you listed (as if I wasn't already sinning with my pride in myself) I went into deep depression because I placed so much weight on being "good." When I realized (like you) that He is good and my righteousness (actions) are like filthy rags it gave me a new freedom. I was a slave to my misguided perceptions and my so called perfection. Christ offered me a freedom based on who He was and not what I did or did not do. He loved me in spite of me. That for me was freeing. Thank you for sharing this post. Now I see that I wasn't the only misguided one...lol...I'm sure there are many more of us. I look forward to reading more of your posts.November 7, 2015
  • I am in tears after reading this! This spoke to me! I can relate! Just a while ago my selfishness rose her head and placed pressure on an old friend to be my superhero. God is the only superhero! He is near ready to comfort! Lord you have spoken! May God Bless this ministry!November 7, 2015
  • This is a much needed topic in the church today. I dont know whats worse these church floks that fill your head with lies or that christian mingle commercial?November 7, 2015
  • Very wise words, son. Hopefully, they are listening with spiritual ears and a heart to obey.November 7, 2015