Embrace the Process

Sharona discusses 3 things that help her to be patient and let go of her created timeline

I Want To Marry a Hosea

Doni discusses her desire to dedicate herself in marriage to a man who will love her like Hosea loved Gomer.

Are You A Good Person Or Just Self-Righteous?

New ParaDime contributor, Jasmine Nwade, talks about when she realized that she wasn't the "good person" she thought she was... When self-righteousness meets the gospel

You’re Not Pursuing Me If…

I’ve started to get a little frustrated with how some of my Christian brothers approach women...Here are 5 "issues"

How to Not Look Crazy

How does one deal with the pressures and strains of everyday life? Thank goodness there is hope in the midst of stress!

What May Be, Isn’t

Sharona discusses what it means to operate in discernment and wisdom as it relates to "potential" romantic interests

Has Natural Hair Gone Too Far?

Has Natural Hair Gone Too Far?

I worry about some of my “natural” sisters sometimes.  I really do.  I worry because so many of us have proclaimed this “rebellion” against ...

Are Black Women Invisible Beauties?

Are Black Women Invisible Beauties?

A study by the Pew Research Center entitled, “Marrying Out: One-in-Seven New U.S. Marriages is Interracial or Interethnic,” reported many statisti...

Should Christians Wear Makeup?

Should Christians Wear Makeup?

Good question. I want to be as direct as I can in addressing this question. Many books and blog posts I’ve read on the matter are vague. So I’l...

Natural Hair: Why Isn’t My Hair Growing?

Natural Hair: Why Isn’t My Hair Growing?

Check out this video on Patricia's YouTube channel about growing your natural hair.  I just went natural about a year ago and I must admit that her v...

A Lady’s Basic Cosmetic Brush Needs

A Lady’s Basic Cosmetic Brush Needs

Remember when makeup applicators were suffice for makeup application? Times have definitely changed. What was once used almost solely by makeup ar...

3 Healthy Alternatives to Unhealthy Cravings

3 Healthy Alternatives to Unhealthy Cravings

People like to stick with things they’ve tried out that have worked for them in the past. If you’re like me, you’re prone to ordering the same t...

3 Healthier Tips for Guilty Pleasures

3 Healthier Tips for Guilty Pleasures

We all have our favorite dishes and snacks that we run to when it comes to eating. Sadly, sometimes those items aren’t of the highest quality, and c...

Embrace the Process: 3 Things that Help Me to Let Go of My Timeline

Embrace the Process: 3 Things that Help Me to Let Go of My Timeline

Fast-forwarding the Process Let’s just get this out there and be real.  I’m not the best when it comes to being patient or lacking control. I’...

Are You A Good Person Or Just Self-Righteous?

Are You A Good Person Or Just Self-Righteous?

The Epiphany Throughout the years I have met some amazing individuals, but in different seasons of their lives some of these amazing people have indu...

Is God Calling Women to Be Vulnerable?

Is God Calling Women to Be Vulnerable?

If I got a group of women together and asked them to list their fears I’m sure I’d get a wide range of answers... “being broke, losing a job, ne...

Spiritual Mothering: Don’t Grow Weary

Spiritual Mothering: Don’t Grow Weary

I laughed as I read a blog I had written earlier this year  It was about a teenager that was stressing me out.  He lives with us and was not followi...

On My Own

On My Own

Well, I have an update to my love life (or lack thereof). After being pursued by a man here in Chicago for a couple months, I decided to thank him for...

Christmasology (A Poem by Doni)

Christmasology (A Poem by Doni)

Christ is all. He is before all, in all, and holds all things together. He is the beginning and the end; the Alpha and Omega. He is the wonderful c...

I Want to Marry A Hosea

I Want to Marry A Hosea

“I want to marry a Boaz.” I hear friends say that quite often. In fact, there was a quote that was posted on Facebook some time ago: “To all th...

You’re Not Pursuing Me If… – 5 Hints to the Man Who Wants to Pursue

You’re Not Pursuing Me If… – 5 Hints to the Man Who Wants to Pursue

I’ve started to get a little frustrated with how some of my Christian brothers approach women...especially within the “Black Church.” It sometim...

What May Be, Isn’t

What May Be, Isn’t

So you start getting to know this guy... He’s in love with God, has great work ethic and a similar vision...He makes you laugh, speaks your love lan...

On My Own

On My Own

Well, I have an update to my love life (or lack thereof). After being pursued by a man here in Chicago for a couple months, I decided to thank him for...

Down About Being Single? 7 Tips to Help

Down About Being Single? 7 Tips to Help

Even though I wrote the “What If The One Never Comes” piece that talks about marriage not being a promise from God for everyone, I’ve had my sha...

Alone. Again.

Alone. Again.

I just got off the phone with a man that I have been building with for over two years. When we first started communicating, he was just a friend. And ...

Embrace the Process: 3 Things that Help Me to Let Go of My Timeline

Embrace the Process: 3 Things that Help Me to Let Go of My Timeline

Fast-forwarding the Process Let’s just get this out there and be real.  I’m not the best when it comes to being patient or lacking control. I’...

Are You A Good Person Or Just Self-Righteous?

Are You A Good Person Or Just Self-Righteous?

The Epiphany Throughout the years I have met some amazing individuals, but in different seasons of their lives some of these amazing people have indu...

How to Not Look Crazy

How to Not Look Crazy

Today after reading and meditating on scripture I began to reflect on where my heart is and the journey it has been taking lately...and really, I coul...

People Cannot Be Superheroes

People Cannot Be Superheroes

I have an issue with selfishness.  Really, it’s not just an “issue.”  That makes it seem small.  The truth is I am engaged in full combat aga...

Waging Good Warfare

Waging Good Warfare

“...wage the good warfare, holding faith and a good conscience...” 1 Tim 18b-19a I have to be honest about something. I actually look forward to ...

The Weakness in Defense: Our Pride is Our Demise

The Weakness in Defense: Our Pride is Our Demise

So, let’s be real.  There are literally days when I want to run away from the people I love the most or hide from those that I wish to grow and con...

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  • Wow.
  • I too was that "good" girl and based my righteousness on my actions. When I did commit one of those sins you listed (as if I wasn't already sinning with my pride in myself) I went into deep depression because I placed so much weight on being "good." When I realized (like you) that He is good and my righteousness (actions) are like filthy rags it gave me a new freedom. I was a slave to my misguided perceptions and my so called perfection. Christ offered me a freedom based on who He was and not what I did or did not do. He loved me in spite of me. That for me was freeing. Thank you for sharing this post. Now I see that I wasn't the only misguided one...lol...I'm sure there are many more of us. I look forward to reading more of your posts.
  • I am in tears after reading this! This spoke to me! I can relate! Just a while ago my selfishness rose her head and placed pressure on an old friend to be my superhero. God is the only superhero! He is near ready to comfort! Lord you have spoken! May God Bless this ministry!
  • This is a much needed topic in the church today. I dont know whats worse these church floks that fill your head with lies or that christian mingle commercial?
  • Very wise words, son. Hopefully, they are listening with spiritual ears and a heart to obey.

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